When you begin a healing journey, it’s generally because you are in some kind of mental discomfort. You don’t accept yourself or you don’t like who you are or you have many issues that you want gone.
I never expected it to feel like this.
I am never alone because I will always have myself. I am always here.
When I am triggered by something I link it back to when I last felt it and other occasions pop up. I work through them and try to figure out why I felt like that. Ultimately, I comfort myself in the way I’d want someone else to back then. However, it’s myself so it’s more meaningful and more important that it is me doing the comforting. By doing this I am healing my inner child. I am accepting the feelings back then so when I am triggered again the negative feelings don’t come back. The feelings that I have accepted myself do.
Let me give you an example (not a personal experience).
You are watching a movie. You see someone slap someone else and it triggers a negative feeling in you. Whatever this feeling may be, it links back to a feeling you had a few weeks ago when you felt like slapping someone and you thought about how good it would feel but you know it’s wrong. Then you link it back several times until you think of your earliest memory of that feeling. Perhaps you hit someone. Perhaps it was an animal. You released your frustration out and expressed it in this violent way. Maybe you are feeling bad about it because it made you feel powerful and it shouldn’t have done. Maybe your mother had a go at you and it just made you even more mad. Maybe you had suppressed some emotions and it had exploded out of you in that way. Now look back and feel that emotion. Journal about it. Talk to someone about it. Meditate on it. Go back to that situation and accept that emotion. Accept that you were feeling that way because of whatever reason you were feeling like that. Go up to yourself and talk about it. Do whatever you need to be OK with it. Move forward.
You are never alone because you will always have yourself.